I wish.......

i wish i could be a stay-at-home mummy...

spending time caring, disciplining, loving and educating my baby boy...

but i need to work....

and the reasons to work seem to outweigh the reasons NOT to work:

The first reason: My mum will kill me if i dun work..hahaha...u may ask why this is my any of my mum's problem..well..my mum's kinda like a feminist ...she believes tat all women should work and should not rely entirely on her husband's finances...tat is why (she said) she ensures her daughters are all well-educated and has a university degree..so tat they can all have their own jobs...hehe...and i am stil scared of my mum..so if she say i must work, then i must work..

The second reason is because i need to help ooi to relief his financial burden too...we have too many bills to pay every month...house loan, utilities bills, credit card bills, grocery bills, diapers to buy, milk powder to buy, dylan's injections to pay, insurance bills, maid's wages, etc etc..and these can amount to a very significant figure....therefore, if Ooi was to carry this burden alone..then he'll be very stressed and not enjoy a proper family life..

The third reason is for our indulgence purposes..not only do i need more money to indulge in major shopping sprees..but i need more money to indulge in good food..and there is nothing i love than eating a yummy spread of taste-buds tantalizing gourmet food :)and we all know good, yummy food does not come cheap nowadays..

I mean there are really many, many, many more reasons why i should work...the list just goes on and on...

but really....if money was not an issue, i would really choose to be a stay-at-home mum to spend time with my boy...time can never be recovered when lost....my boy is suddenly growing so fast...my heart breaks everytime when the weekend ends...it breaks every morning when i have to leave for work..it breaks every time when i am in the office working, knowing he's spending more time with the maid than with me...i dun think i have ever had my heart broken so many times before i had him....

i lurve my boy so much and i know he lurves me too...i hope he understands why mummy has to work and i hope he'll continue to love me as much as i love him

Happy Dylan and mummy...

Dylan..the Headstrong boy

so...dylan is going to be 11 months old in a few days time.. overall, i m quite satisfied with his development..he's taking his solid foods quite well, is quite strong physically and always is curious about his surroundings....

however, the one development tat i was not quite prepared for was the signes he's been giving to both me n papa signs of what his character is gonna be like...and yup, u guessed it...he's developing to be one headstrong boy....

there have been many, many incidents where dylan has shown his strong determination in the things he wants (which sometimes, i must confess can drive me up the wall)...when he wants something, nothing can stop him...and just yesterday, this was what happened...

we tried several times to remove dylan from the laptop area...but alas,all fails...he eventually made his way back to the laptop area...

hence, papa had to take out a rosak already laptop to 'trick' him....dylan ended up pulling out all the alphabets on the keypad...luckily not on our working laptop ah....so....do i dare ask where he got his headstrong character from? the mama or papa? hehehe...i dun think i wanna know what u all say....

Dylan's fav TV show

i know i should not be letting dylan watch tv at such a young age...but every morning, Dylan wakes up the same time as both me and Ooi ...then, Ooi and i would usually take turns to shower..while one showers, the other one accompanies or monitors Dylan while he is playing on his play-mat with his toys...

but every morning, they'll be a short point in time, where i would have to stand in front of the mirror to do my make-up/ blow my hair dry, while ooi needs to quickly iron out the wrinkles on his work clothes...so this will be the time when i need dylan to sit still or be at least sitting on his play mat independently without moving too much around...and ...well..u know..babies are babies...they rarely can sit still in one place for too long...he'll usually end up crawling somewhere else or to me to carry him...

so, i will usually put him in his chair and switch on the TV to keep him busy for a while..and it so happens, this always happens at 7.30 am when his favourite TV show comes on....which is Disney Channel's THE LITTLE EINSTEINS


hahaha...actually Dylan only likes the Theme Song of this song...and i usually cannot resist carrying him to dance, sing, and spin him around to the song...he'll usually shriek and scream with absolute glee whenever i do tat...and then in every episode of the show, they'll also be a part where the little einsteins will pat and raise their hands so that they can blast off in their rocket ship (ya..u'll have to watch this to know what i m talking abt)...then i will hold dylan's hand to imitate them..he so loves it when i do it...

we've been doing this for some time now..and now sometimes, when i am picking Dylan up from my in-laws' house after work in the evening, if the song suddenly comes on in the TV (they do a repeat of the show at 6.30pm), he'll get all excited and be quickly crawling his way to me to so that i will pick him up to dance..hahah..such a clever boy ah :)

heheh..so again, when dylan is happy, mummy is happy :) cos mummy *heart* Dylan so so much..MUAAAKKKSSSS

compulsory day for maids off: part 2

so..ooi has decided to voice his opinion on the above matter on his facebook status..he is of the view that if we were to give our maids day off once per week, well..then places like KLCC will be filled with all of them...

i mean...this is already the case as u all know..tat if u go to KL during public holidays, u will really see a lot of the foreign workers all in the city hanging out...and when tat happens, i feel as though i am in a foreign land, rather than Malaysia

ok...but tat is not the point or the motivation to me posting another blog entry on this matter...wat really prompted me were the comments some of our frens made...(not mentioning names here..u all know who u are..haha)..

the way they make out of the whole matter is tat, we are the inconsiderate ppl who are refusing to give our maids days 0ff..this is the part tat really ticked me off...

it's not that i cannot live without my maid...nope..my maid has an off-day once every month..she'll go out on saturday and come back on sunday evening...

we do not mind doing this once a month...but to be doing it every week is outrageous...both ooi and i are working parents...ooi has to work on alternative weeks for 6 days...and there are weeks where he works 7 days a week straight...whereas for me: on saturdays, i have to bring my son to a music class he is enrolled to..on sundays, i bring him to church to mix with other babies...

with all these things to do, in between we need to make sure everyone is clean and well-fed..it is quite a bit of work to do...tat is why we hire a maid..to help us to do all the small, nitty things like getting our meals ready and keeping the house clean...and my maid does not clean the house on a daily basis becos during week days when we are working, we send our maid to our nearby in-law's house with dylan..my in-law has their own maid..so my maid does not need to do any house work there either...think how free she actually is? and even with the little work she has to do, she does half of it wrongly..

my hubby and i are working our assess off day in and day out (hehe..soree..but am really getting heated as i am writing this)...the government has never proposed anything productive or helpful to help out working parents like us...and we are the country's own citizens!! and i have not even delved into deeper issues such as our maids being influenced by other maids, or opportunities for them to know other men, etc etc...

and now they have the audacity to propose such a ruling...tell me...why am i not happy? better yet, give me a reason to be happy about the ruling? go to work stress, come home also stress...tell me now, why again should i be proud of my government..just one issue is really enuff to make me pi**ed off..

the thing is..i hired a maid so tat me and hubby can get more financial support to give the whole family a better and higher living standard...otherwise, trust me...i can live without a maid...i'll just have to quit my job to be a full time housewife...and with the reduced income, we cannot live the way we do...better education, better food, better clothes, better entertainment will all just have to be completely out of the picture..tat's all..and we will just live a very mediocre, calculative, "buy what is only needed" kind of live...tell me...wat is the meaning of life if everyday we live like tat

i really surrender my case :( pls just spare me from the 'oh..i m just such a humanitarian' kind of talk

compulsory day off for maids?

i started off the day, rushing to drop dylan at my in-laws' house and then zooming off in the predictable yet horrendous jam to work...

after i parked my car in the open car park, i hurried past my office lobby, into the lift and quickly made my way to my office seat...as i dumped my bag, logged in my password for the computer..little was i prepared to see the headline in the newpaper which i set as my default homepage...

urghh...yup...u guessed it...my lovely government has once again done it...once again, they have 'cleverly' implemented some stupid regulation before even bothering to get any form of feedback from the ACTUAL affected parties(for more info: http://www.thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/6/17/nation/4132651&sec=nation)

...sighh...i really, really have no more faith in my government...countless times, instead of being proactive they have decided to be reactive...and i am pretty confident this has got to do with the recent abuse maid case..

to be very frank, i have a lot of things i can say abt this...but i am choosing not to waste my time lamenting abt it over the internet..it is just pointless..i just know i am very unhappy and dissatisfied with my government right now...with tat, i end.